Planning a Surprise

So it’s supposed to be “our month” this month. We’re supposed to celebrate our first year together. I planned a lot of things for this. I lined up all the overrated cheesy things that couples do and I plan to propose that we do every single one in that list. By the time the month ends, we would have HHWW in Luneta, played hide and seek, watched a cheesy tagalog film, went to the zoo, fed each other pancit, sang to each other while walking along the bay and a whole lot of other things and it would have been nauseating but amusing and awesome. This would have been a month for the books.

But then something unexpected happened. His relatives from the states came home.

Now let it be known that my boyfriend belongs to a tightly knit family. They’re the type of people who does everything together. They love bonding with each other, going out to eat, visiting each other’s houses to eat, going to the beach, everything. They just can’t get enough of each other. It’s cute, really.

However, because of that, all the plans and preparations I’ve been making would come to a screeching halt. His family now occupies every weekend of July. His mom would be coming home from the US too, and yes that means minus more days for us.

It didn’t help of course that his cousin— okay, I won’t go there. Anyway, it just absolutely crushed me. I know that anniversaries and stuff shouldn’t mean that much anymore to me but it still does, tremendously in fact. I’m just a girl. I love making a big deal out of things. And this IS a big deal. If this was done in any other month and in any other day, it wouldn’t be the same.

There are 12 months in a whole year… why this July. Why.

I’m sad. and paranoid.

Your Girlfriend and your friend who is a girl

Heh. My friend used to play that part. She had a really good guy friend whose girlfriend really ticks her off. She has been friends with the guy for a long time and here comes the girlfriend suddenly snatching her very good friend away from her. They don’t spend time with each other like they used to, they don’t talk that much anymore… a lot has changed since the girlfriend moved into her friend’s life and she hated it.

I tried sympathizing with her and looked at it from her point of view. It did seem unfair. A good friendship ending just like that would make anyone hate the one causing it. I used to think that way too until I lost my now ex-boyfriend to another.

That’s probably where I got all the crazy shit in my head from. All that looming girlfriend paranoia I can’t seem to shake off came from the realization that a purely platonic relationship between a guy and a girl is virtually impossible. You’ll probably argue vehemently about having your own opposite-sex bestfriend and never, EVER once thinking about him/her in a more-than-friends way so spare me all that lecture, okay? I know what you’re going to say and I have already taken that into consideration.

Your girlfriend is someone who is (in most cases) new in your life. You have your high school friends, your college buddies, your co-workers. You have all these people who shared a part of your life already and here comes your girlfriend suddenly holding the highest regard even though her ties with you can’t even compare to the age of the ties you have with your friends. Naturally, she would want exclusivity. If you have a best-girl-friend then you have to prepare yourself for some issues. Heh.

I’m not saying that all girls are the same. Some girls are blessed with a complacent sense of self that would make her overcome issues regarding the best-girl-friend. But for paranoid girlfriends like me who already experienced trusting that “friend who is a girl” and then being completely screwed over, it won’t be that easy.

And also, I’ve seen WAAAAAAAAAAAAY too many cases of guys falling in-love with their bestfriends and girls falling in-love with their bestfriends (and ultimately breaking up with their SOs because of them) to be complacent if my boyfriend’s friend-who-is-a-girl starts calling him…

…ON THE DAY OF OUR MONTHLY KOALA DAY.

…WHILE WE WERE TOGETHER.

…JUST SO THEY CAN GO TO SCHOOL TOGETHER.

So forgive me if I didn’t take it lightly. Forgive me if I got mighty pissed at this friend-who-is-a-girl. Whom actually, I later found out had a crush on my boyfriend when they were classmates. (AH-HAH!) And also, I found out that my boyfriend had a crush on that friend-who-is-a-girl too. (DOUBLE HAH!)

Please don’t take it against me now if I’m not particularly fond of friends-who-are-girls. As I’ve said in a lot of “About Me” posts… I’m terribly, terribly insecure. And paranoid. I’m sorry.

Deception: clues were too big.

oooooh!! nomnomnomnomnom!

Jonathan (Ewan McGregor) is an awkward, reserved accountant who feels that life just passes him day after day. He loves problem solving, puzzles and numbers but that doesn’t really get him any, if you catch my drift. He meets charismatic lawyer Wyatt Bose (Hugh Jackman) and gets thrown into a world of sex and sex and more sex. Jonathan gets addicted to The List but he doesn’t really know for sure what he’s getting himself into.

I first learned about this movie during my first day of work when I passed by McDonalds to get myself some good ol’ sausage mcmuffin with egg. I got Sunday’s newspaper and saw two of the three men who introduced the meaning of lust to me: Ewan McGregor and Hugh Jackman (the last member of my three lust-inducing men group is none other than Johnny Depp) Having these two men in the same frame, in the same movie was enough to give me multiple orgasms. Haha yeah, that’s right.

Needless to say I was able to watch it the next weekend with a good friend of mine. Like most women, there are only two things I’d like to see men in. A good pair of boxers and a suit. (not both at the same time mind you) I was used to seeing Hugh Jackman’s body, I’ve practically memorized every curve, every bulge (of course not!) but Ewan McGregor has always been a girly crush. Sure I’ve seen his little ding-dong in a fleeting scene in Trainspotting, seen him make rough/sweet love with Scarlett in The Island, seen him get ravaged by Nicole Kidman in Moulin Rouge but what I feel for Ewan McGregor is more of a squealy, I-want-to-hugz-you type of feeling. He’s so boyish it’s just criminal. So I suppose it’s understandable that when I saw him in his glasses, his awkward hair and his slumped posture, I squealed like a high school girl and grabbed the nearest thing that I could squeeze. In that situation, it was my friend’s arm.

“Easy, Nicole… easy”

“But… But…!! OH MAH GAWD!! *pants*”

Setting all my girlish fantasies aside and to look at the movie critically, Deception had a good plot going for it. You know that it meant well but it’s just not that expertly executed. In this kind of movie genre, your success rests solely in your ability to put down clues small enough to keep the audience guessing but big enough to plant seeds of doubt. The problem with Deception is that the clues it presented practically gave away the secret. They were too big and too obvious that by the middle part of it, you already know what’s going to happen and how it’s going to happen.

Though I admit, they got me with Wyatt’s identity. I really believed him to be what he is at first. Young, successful lawyer who gets laid on a regular basis. I just thought that he would be a young, successful lawyer who swindles people and takes their money through an articulate form of cheating. I didn’t imagine he was a con artist. When Jonathan starts looking for Wyatt and finds that no one knew him, I was like “Oh holy shit!!”

In conclusion, the movie was okay. Not that spectacular considering its intended genre, there are a lot of movies with better execution. But having Ewan McGregor and Hugh Jackman in the same goddamn frame is something I would want to see again!

More pictures!

Michelle Williams you are too lucky!

OMG! It’s Maggie Q! HAWT!